Fighting Nature

September 27, 2016

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INFJ. That's the little box Meyers-Briggs put me in. At least, that was before I came to college. I remember sitting in a classroom the first month of Fall semester, listening to each student share which personality type they were given, and how accurate the results were. And then there was me, thinking, "Sure, some of this stuff is true, but a lot of it I could go either way on." So why did everyone else rave about their newfound personal insight, while I sat by frustrated by the fact that once again, I couldn't manage to pinpoint myself? I went home that night and sat on my floor with a notebook in hand, scribbling down every true fact I could think of about myself. Why was it so hard? I realized something that night. I had spent a lifetime of people-pleasing - adapting to every social atmosphere, seamlessly blending into "normalcy." I couldn't even tell myself whether I thought the temperature of the room was comfortable because I was so used to agreeing with the opinion of the asker. So I thought hard that night. What do I like? What makes me tick in the morning when I wake up? What are my strengths, and what are my faults? I was brutally honest with myself, which was something I either hadn't done before, or at least hadn't done in a very long time. Truth be told, we're learning everyday who we are. We grow, we change - are souls are cultivated by experiences and relationships.

I am not an introvert. And I am not an extrovert. Can a test help to iron out a few details? Maybe. But the human mind is so complex, I really feel it's near impossible to accurately put anyone into a single category and call it a day.
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Now that I've ranted to you, I want to make mention of the amazing lady who took these photos. Elizabeth of Elizabeth Lauren Photography met up with me just before I flew back to VA this Summer and managed to fit a photo session in just as the sun was setting. This girl is so talented, it's crazy. Best part? She's going to be the photographer for Jon & I's wedding. God definitely blessed our socks off there.

A few of you girls have been saying you miss the outfit posts. I definitely plan to keep posting fashion editorials; just mixed in with some other content here and there. Getting someone to snap photos for you at college is a bit tricky ;). With that said, for my style gals, let's talk outfit shall we? This off-the-shoulder top is from Romwe. I've been loving the off-shoulder trend this Summer, especially in soft, neutral colors. These distressed skinnies are a new favorite of mine, though they're not a huge hit with my man. I assured him that it's just a fad that will probably pass in a year, amirite?
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Shirt: c/o Romwe
Pants: thrifted
Shoes: Payless
Necklace: Forever 21
Photo credit: Elizabeth Lauren Photography
The Boyer Sisters said...

Wow, what you wrote about personality types is so me! For the longest time I was frustrated, totally not knowing which personality type was mine, even after taking the test so many times. None of them ever fit me. The problem turned out to be the fact that I was answering the test according to what I wanted to be, rather than who I really was. Took the test again, and found the personality that fit me the best: ESTP! You are right in that nobody fits into a cookie cutter perfectly. It is helpful, however, to have something like a personality type that helps you understand yourself better :)


Madison said...

I soooo enjoyed reading this post Alex! I too was classified as an INFJ according to Meyers Briggs test, but for me finding that out made me understand myself so much more and all of the questions I have had about my shyness over the years were explained. I think sometimes we are both a mix of different personalities because sometimes I can be the complete opposite of INFJ, but at the end of the day knowing that I am 85% introverted helps me to take a breath and not feel pressured to be someone else.

P.S. also LOVE these pictures! It definitely helps to have someone else take pictures of you at college.


Anonymous said...

I'm an INFJ as well, and can TOTALLY relate to you with your rant!! <3 Also, I LOVED the outfit!! Super cute!! <3

Emily Chapman said...

I love every bit of this post. <3

Sarah said...

I agree that I think we as individuals are complex and that trying to fit into a box leaves a lot out. That being said, I think trying to pinpoint your personality type may help you understand yourself and know why you react to certain things in certain ways. Hopefully, this can then help us know our strengths and weaknesses better.


Brinta said...

I appreciate your honesty on this post. I'v grown up surrounded by people fascinated by Myers Brings and so, I'v developed a comfort and interest. But I'v seen so many people use them either as a stopping point, or crutch. People think they can quantify themselves and that can be comforting to them. And yet, I've seen when people stop searching or discovering beyond finding themselves a type, they can forget about their unique needs and quirks. Personality types can be a beautiful way to begin exploring who we are and what makes us tick, but truly, they should be the beginning to the never ending struggle to understand, and accept,who we are as we find ourselves, not as who we think we should be.

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